Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Why Couples Elope!

Why Couples Elope!

Once thought to be a formality used only by troublesome teen couples, eloping has now become a legitimate event for many lovers. It includes not only the traditional form of eloping, where you head down to the local justice of the peace, but now, many couples are tying their knots in many exciting, out-of-the-ordinary ways.

What drives this need for something different?

Most couples start with exciting plans of a romantic, enjoyable traditional wedding. They dream up wild ideas for creating a memorable event to start their lives together. And then... reality hits. Family members dabble their fingers in the minute details. For example, Aunt Jan offers to sing her favorite love song, in operatic voice, while you want a cellist and pianist. In addition to your family intrusions, you can see your bank account and maybe your parent's as well, beginning to plummet from all the essentials that make a wedding successful. Estimates put the average American wedding in the $20,000 to $25,000 range. And since 30% of couples end up paying for their own wedding, this can often mean the difference between having a memorable one day event and having a down payment on a home. Plus, coordinating everything... from photographer, to location, to dates, to relatives, becomes an increasingly painful experience.

Other factors have also played an important role in couples who elope. The average age of marrying couples has slowly risen since the 1950's. This has led to couples who are more independent and not as worried about pleasing parents and friends when they tie the knot. Also, due to high divorce rates, many second marriages lead couples to opt for smaller, more practical ceremonies. It also seems, in general, that social pressures have lessened in regards to non-traditional weddings.

Some couples find they have lived together for several years, and finally decide they just want to legally consummate their relationship. In fact, a large portion of elopers, some independent statistics show up to 75%, actually plan their weddings months in advance. This is much different from the common perception of an instant, spontaneous wedding... which is often how we see elopers portrayed on TV and in the media.

If you have hit that point, where you are tired of all the stressful planning, all the schedule juggling, and all the money draining from your account, then maybe it's time to stop. Relax! And think about the other wedding option... eloping.

Although eloping may not seem like the most romantic of ideas, it is definitely a wedding strategy that can actually save you from tons of stress and can also give you a lot of fun memories to share.

Ideas for Creating a Beach Theme Wedding

Ideas for Creating a Beach Theme Wedding

Your partner has proposed and the day is to be set, but as you look through the pages of a bridal magazine and view the lavish bridal gowns and stately reception halls you feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable. While you dream of creating a memorable day that will share your love and commitment with your closest friends and family, the vision you have is not fitting the offerings you see in the magazines.

For a special couple whose hallmark is an easy-going, carefree attitude and an intimate circle of friends and family, perhaps the traditional weddings you've attended and now consider are not for you. With the popularity of theme weddings you may find a different approach will help you display your love of life and each other in a beautiful, but decidedly unique wedding. A beach wedding.

A beach wedding is all about the honeymoon. While most couples have a traditional service and reception and THEN take off to the beach on their own, a beach wedding welcomes friends and family into the marriage on a closer level.

Beach weddings are sometimes held in the honeymoon destination and in most cases are small, intimate affairs. If you enjoy a close knit family or social circle, you may find a beach wedding shares your deep affections for them and your new partner better than a large formal service could.

Whether you all fly to a tropical destination, or simply hold a small service on a local beach, you can create a romantic and casually elegant wedding.

For small weddings you may pass out invitations rolled up in a small corked bottle which you can find at a craft store. You and your partner may consider wearing simple, all-white attire while the wedding party (even just a party of two) chooses a theme color to compliment. A breezy summer dress, loose hair and a simple bouquet for the bride and a groom's outfit of a white cotton shirt and pants sets off the freshness of a beach wedding.

If the wedding or reception occurs near dusk, bring small glass tealight holders to place in the sand. Sprinkling the table with seashells or beach rocks will add to the feel even if part of the reception takes place indoors. White table cloths and white china with glass or crystal creates an elegant mood, while fiesta bright colors can set off a more playful decor.

For flowers, think of tropical arrangements or even all white lilies in unstructured bouquets. Adding tropical plants to an indoor reception along with bamboo or rattan seating will carry the theme throughout.

If you decide that a beach wedding will capture your day in way that no traditional wedding will, you can be sure that your guests will also have a special memory of your marriage day that will last a lifetime.